Leaning In: Embracing The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

This is part of our new series, 10 Things You Can Do To Help Your Atypical Child Thrive. Today, Colleen discusses the value of leaning in and embracing the child we have in front of us, as a way for the entire family to thrive. 

 

 
You have amazing kids. 

While it may not always be easy (in fact, often times it won’t!) when we can embrace the good, our families can do fantastic things together. Last week we talked about letting go –  educationally parentally, nutritionally, socially, and personally. This week, we’re going to talk about the next step, and that’s leaning in. We’ve let go of unrealistic expectations. Now we’re going to lean in to what we have.

 

Leaning In: Embracing The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

 

Stop Fighting The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

We need to stop fighting the child we have.

We want to lean in and embrace them fully, as they are. What do I mean by that? We’re going to stop fighting with what we thought our kiddo was going to be like and instead embrace who they truly are. It’s the very best way I know of to create an environment of learning, joy, and creativity. This also helps you to relax and actually enjoy your family, rather than feeling pressure to change it. 

I’ll give you a quick example. My husband and I met playing softball. He proposed to me by tossing my ring in my glove at the end of a game. But none of my kids are athletic. None.

In fact, we had our oldest try all the different sports when he was little and he cried everywhere – cried on the basketball court, cried on the soccer field, cried on the T-ball field. It was not what we expected. 

It took us awhile to just lean into who he was. He was algorithmic. He was pattern seeking and thoughtful. He had an engineer kind of mind. It was just not what we were expecting.  I think that one of the most difficult things we face as parents of differently wired kids is the reality of who our kids actually are versus the thoughts and pictures we had before we had them. When we’re fighting with the discrepancy between those two things, we can’t fully support them. We end up ignoring their needs and living in a place of frustration all the time.

 

Leaning In: Embracing The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

 

Helping Our Children Feel Accepted

Here’s the hard truth: anytime we wish for normal, we’re contributing to the belief  that difference is bad.  Our kids hear, whether we intend it or not, that there’s something wrong with them.  When we lean into who they actually are, they feel validated and they feel right.

Our kids know they’re different. I’ve said this so many times, our kids are perceptive. They can see that they think differently than others around them. They can feel this. When they’re having conversations with peers, they know they’re different. When we are struggling with those differences, they can think that we wish they were not who they are.

We need, for everyone’s sake, to stop fighting who they are surrender to who our child actually is. 

When we lean into seeing them as beautiful, amazing, incredibly creative and interesting people, everything gets easier. Our child gets to be who they are without receiving the message that they’re wrong or annoying or frustrating.

 

Leaning In: Embracing The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

 

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The Raising Lifelong Learners Podcast Episode #163 – Leaning In: Embracing The Reality Of Parenting An Atypical Child

This is part of our new series, 10 Things You Can Do To Help Your Atypical Child Thrive. Today, Colleen discusses the value of leaning in and embracing the child we have in front of us, as a way for the entire family to thrive. 

Links And Resources From Today’s Show:

 

Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger's, Depression, and Other Disorders (2nd edition)Raising Gifted Children: A Practical Guide for Parents Facing Big Emotions and Big PotentialDifferently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional WorldTo Be Gifted and Learning Disabled: Strength-Based Strategies for Helping Twice-Exceptional Students With LD, ADHD, ASD, and MoreGifted People: Being Aware of Gifted Children and AdultsRaising Creative Kids: A Collection of Simple Creativity Prompts for ChildrenSuccess Strategies for Parenting Gifted Kids: Expert Advice From the National Association for Gifted ChildrenUnderstanding Your Gifted Child From the Inside Out: A Guide to the Social and Emotional Lives of Gifted KidsWhy I Love Homeschooling Neurodiverse Kids: 25 Parents Share the Joys & Challenges of Educating Their Kids Who Have ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia, Giftedness, or Are Otherwise Differently WiredThe Big Book of Kids Activities: 500 Projects That Are the Bestest, Funnest EverRaising Resilient Sons: A Boy Mom's Guide to Building a Strong, Confident, and Emotionally Intelligent Family100 Backyard Activities That Are the Dirtiest, Coolest, Creepy-Crawliest Ever!: Become an Expert on Bugs, Beetles, Worms, Frogs, Snakes, Birds, Plants and More

 

 
 
 

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