The Gift Of Accepting Our Quirky Kids As They Are (not how we want them to be)

Parenting gifted and twice exceptional children can bring an entire host of fears and guilt, especially when our children are struggling or not typically developing. In this episode of The Raising Lifelong Learners Podcast, I am thrilled to welcome Denaye Barahona, Ph.D. We discuss our shared experience as moms, coupled with our expertise in supporting neurodiverse children. We consider the importance and gift of authentically accepting our kids as they truly are.



I think we would all say that we want to embrace the child we have been given and lean into all that makes them wonderful and unique. The problem is that we tend to get in the way with our own ideas and expectations of how we think parenthood and childhood should be. 

How Do We Let Go Of Our Own Expectations As Parents?

I love in this episode when Denaye says that we have been idealizing how our kids will be since before they were conceived! How true.

I thought my child would be super sporty. He had other plans.

Another mom I know anticipated a creative, gifted artist, but her daughter won’t even pick up a paint brush.

It’s difficult, but the truth is, if we are going to authentically accept and embrace our children as they are, we have to let go of our own expectations.  Letting go of our ideals allow us to really help our kids grow and develop in ways that work best for their unique make-up. 



Authentically Accepting Our Kids As They Are (not how we want them to be)

Meeting our children where they are means leaning into their strengths and their differences, It means allowing them to be who they are, not who we want them to be.

In this episode, we speak frankly about the struggle, but more importantly, how we can practically do this in our homes. 



The Gift Of Accepting Our Quirky Kids As They Are: A conversation with Denaye Barahona, Ph.D.

Please, let me introduce you to Denaye Barahona, Ph.D.

I have a personal and professional passion for helping women thrive in motherhood. My Ph.D. is in Child Development. I am also a Clinical Social Worker with a specialty in Child and Family Practice. I followed that up with a Post-Grad Certificate in Behavior Analysis of Children. I have spent much of my career working with parents who deal with challenging behavior in children–whether it be eating, sleeping, screaming, cussing or hitting.


I can’t wait for you to hear her practical advice and overall thoughts on raising quirky kids (and lifelong learners!). 


Links and Resources from Today’s Show:

Simple Happy Parenting: The Secret of Less for Calmer Parents and Happier KidsHow To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series)Raising Resilient Sons: A Boy Mom's Guide to Building a Strong, Confident, and Emotionally Intelligent FamilyPeaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start ConnectingRaising Creative Kids: A Collection of Simple Creativity Prompts for ChildrenRaising An Emotionally Intelligent ChildPositive Parenting: A Simple and Essential Guide to Find Solutions for Small and Large Everyday Problems in the Education and the Discipline of Your ... Grow Happier, Smarter and More Self ConfidentSimplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure KidsThe Kids' Guide to Staying Awesome and In Control: Simple Stuff to Help Children Regulate their Emotions and Senses




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