Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Children

Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Kids

Gifted children have characteristics that can often cause them to struggle socially and emotionally.


Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Children


In fact, the academic challenges are often much easier to deal with than the emotional ones. To give your gifted child the support he or she needs to be successful, it’s important that you understand how that giftedness impacts his or her emotions.

What are some of these challenges?


Asynchronous Development

Simply put, asynchronous development means that gifted children grow physically, emotionally, and intellectually at varying rates. This discrepancy can cause some challenges:


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Advanced Reasoning & Verbal Ability

While it may seem cute and even amazing when your eighteen-month-old rolls out paragraphs instead of two- and three-word sentences, this skill may be used against you when that sweetheart gets a bit older.

Advanced verbal ability can make gifted kids be argumentative. In fact, many argue about every little thing that happens in their day. It can completely exhaust both the parent and the child.

Gifted kids can try to manipulate parents and other adults, or attempt to “pull one over” on them from young ages.

A gifted child’s advanced sense of humor can get them into trouble with adults or cause them to be misunderstood, making it difficult to get along with people.


Gifted kids often struggle with emotional intensity and perfectionism. They fear failure and react in unusually intense ways when they don’t get their way or are disappointed.

Sometimes perfectionism can be paralyzing to a gifted child, keeping them from trying something new for fear of failing at it.

Gifted children may hold back in situations, waiting to assess all implications before acting, which can make them seem socially inept or shy.

Intensity can manifest itself in extreme outbursts towards others — especially in situations that do not normally warrant strong reactions.

Extreme sensitivity can cause intense kids to take things too personally.


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So what can parents do to help their gifted children deal appropriately with their social and emotional differences?

Find Intellectual Peers

It’s tough for gifted kids to be around same-age peers exclusively. While most kids want to play with other children their own age, gifted children need to play with, talk with, and find mentors in older children and adults.

Use your child’s passions to help find him or her adults or other children to talk to. Try to find other gifted kids in your area, and form a play or study group. Get your child involved in situations that make the most of his or her giftedness and where the differences don’t seem so different.

Control Your Own Reactions

Even though a gifted child wants to argue with the things you say and do, you are still the parent, and it’s important to maintain that balance. It’s okay — and even encouraged — to give your child credit for innovative and logical thinking. That’s a gift that can be beneficial to their future. But, a child still needs proper discipline in order to learn to get along with others. It’s a challenging line to walk as parents of gifted children.


Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Children


These are, admittedly, just a few ways to cope with your gifted child’s social and emotional needs. The most important thing is to be aware that your child is different and has specific needs that must be met.

Your turn: What are some strategies you have found in helping your child manage his or her emotions?


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More About Gifted Kids

Some gifted kiddos struggle with twice-exceptionalities, too. This means they’re gifted, but have a second neurological diagnosis, too. Below, I’ve pulled together some of the past posts I’ve written about twice exceptional children and how to parent and homeschool them. If you wish there was more about a specific aspect of being a mom or dad to a 2e kiddo, email me or leave a comment below to let me know.


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Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Children