The Ultimate Guide to Homeschooling Gifted Children
Since I began searching for alternate paths of learning for my twice-exceptional son many years ago, and changed my thinking enough to gather the courage to pull him out of school to pursue homeschooling, I’ve watched the population of homeschoolers with gifted children grow. And grow.
And, in the process, I’ve come to believe wholeheartedly that homeschooling is the best possible educational path available for gifted learners. In school systems where funding for gifted programs are either nonexistent, or being cut dramatically, there just aren’t enough resources to meet the needs of our gifted kids.
So, they get left behind as teachers are forced teach to the middle or remediate those that struggle. But all children deserve to learn every day, and, for gifted kids, homeschooling is the answer.
For all of you out there considering homeschooling as the answer for your bright – or twice-exceptional – kids, and for those already on this path alongside me, I’ve pulled together this Ultimate Guide to Homeschooling Gifted Kids full of information, resources and support.
Read the whole post or click below to go directly to the section you’re looking for.
What is Giftedness?
Why Homeschool Gifted Kids?
How to Homeschool a Gifted Child
Support for Parents of Gifted Kids
Recommended materials
Moving Forward
What is Giftedness?
While this post is mostly about resources and support, I’d be remiss not to discuss the term gifted. If you’ve been reading for a while, you know I’ve covered giftedness in several different posts and series, which I’ll link to, but I’ll share again so it’s all in one place.
The Columbus Group defines giftedness as:
[the] asynchronous development in which advanced cognitive abilities and heightened intensity combine to create inner experiences and awareness that are qualitatively different from the norm. This asynchrony increases with higher intellectual capacity. The uniqueness of the gifted renders them particularly vulnerable and requires modifications in parenting, teaching and counseling in order for them to develop optimally.
If you need a more clinical definition of giftedness, a test score of {roughly} two standard deviations above average would generate a diagnosis of giftedness. However, as the definition above describes, there are other factors involved in giftedness.
A gifted child is neurologically wired differently than his average peers. Giftedness is hard to accurately measure because tests and schools are looking for achievement. And a high achiever is not necessarily a gifted learner.
He may be…but, it’s actually more likely that he is not the high-achieving kiddo we think of when we picture a gifted child.
That asynchrony and intensity that goes along with giftedness makes for an extremely complex individual — even more different than other gifted kids as he is from typical age-peers. Throw in some learning difficulties to make your child fit the twice-exceptional definition, and you really have your hands full.
Need some more information to help you in figuring out that awesome {and puzzling} kiddo you have? Try these resources:
Gifted Definitions
There are many, many definitions of giftedness, and just as many passionate pleas for understanding. Here are some that I find helpful, researched-based, and well-written:
- How Do I Know if My Child is Gifted?
- What Does a Gifted Child Look Like?
- Understanding the Creatively Gifted Child
- Understanding the Academically Gifted Child
- Understanding the Cognitively Gifted Child
- From the National Society for the Gifted and Talented: Giftedness Defined
- What is Giftedness? from The National Association for Gifted Children
- Renzulli’s Three-Ring Conception of Giftedness
- 10 Characteristics of Gifted Children from The Public School Review
- Dr. Bertie Kingore discusses differences between the High Achiever, Gifted Learner, and Creative Thinker
- From The Davidson Institute for Talent Development: Exceptionally Gifted Children: Different Minds
- SENG {Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted} shares one of my favorite articles ever by Stephanie S. Tolan: Is it a Cheetah?
Twice-Exceptional Learners
A gifted learner is twice-exceptional when he or she has another issue to deal with like ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, Autism, Dyslexia, and myriad other challenges. The kids are uniquely difficult to identify, especially in a school setting {but also in the home} because their abilities mask their disabilities, and vice versa. They often come across as lazy, belligerent, argumentative, unfocused, hyperactive, or like they just don’t care.
2E kids {as they’re called for short} are especially challenging to parent and teach. These links and books are great for arming you with information and strategies to help your 2E child work through his or her difficulties so that their advanced abilities can shine:
- Giftedness Disguised
- RLL #21: Kaylene George: Embracing Autism
- If He’s REALLY So Smart… When Gifted Kids Struggle
- A Kid with an Issue Can’t Be Gifted, Right?
- Parenting and Teaching a Twice Exceptional Child
- The Unmeasured Executive Functioning Issue
- Homeschooling Because of Mental Illness
- From the National Research Center on the Gifted and Talented: Attention Deficit Disorders and Gifted Students: What Do We Really Know?
- Gifted and Learning Disabled: Twice Exceptional Students from the NRCGT at University of Connecticut
- The 2E Newsletter –a bimonthly newsletter about all things twice-exceptional
- The Twice-Exceptional Dilemma – a document from the National Education Association
- Tips for Parents: Meeting the Needs of the Twice-Exceptional from the Davidson Institute for Talent Development
- ASD and Giftedness: Twice Exceptionality on the Autistic Spectrum by Corin Barsily Goodwin and Mika Gustavson MFT
- RLL #61: Let’s Talk About Anxiety
- The Lies Anxiety Tells You
- When Anxiety Looks Like Anger
Asynchronous Learning
Giftedness and asynchronous abilities go hand-in-hand. And, the higher your child falls on the continuum {IQ or ability}, the more asynchronous he likely is. This means that he may be reading at an adult reading level, writing like a third grader, conversing with college school biology professors about the life cycle of the garter snake, and completing on-grade-level 6th grade math like the rest of the twelve year old in the neighborhood.
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- RLL #77: Asynchronous Development in Gifted Children
- Homeschooling Gifted Children | Meeting Asynchronous Abilities
- RLL #24: Asynchrony, Intensity, and Motivation | A Listener Question
- Navigating Social and Emotional Needs of Gifted Kids
- Dealing with Your Child’s Asynchronous Development by Carol Bainbridge
- From SENG – Asynchronous Development
- Many Ages at Once by Lisa Rivero, published in Psychology Today
- From Stephanie S. Tolan, Giftedness as Asynchronous Development
Intensity
Gifted children are often described as more. More everything… Their day is the best or worst day ever – there is no in-between. They meltdown, they hyper-focus, they avoid work passionately… You just never know exactly who is going to show up. I recently presented a webinar on managing intensity in children, and have gathered some great resources together already. Below, I’ve linked to some articles I’ve written, that resource page, and some additional resources as well:
- What is an Intense Child?
- Parenting Gifted and Intense Children
- Overexcitabilities and Why They Matter for Gifted Kids
- Do Gifted Kids Need Less Sleep?
- Discipline and Your Intense Child
- Managing Your Gifted Kid’s Intensity During the Holidays
- Managing Intense Kids from an iHomeschool Studio Webinar
Why Homeschool Gifted Kids?
With class sizes rising, teachers are stretched thinner and thinner. They’re evaluated on their students’ test scores, and so their limited time and resources often fall to the struggling students, leaving gifted kids to fend for themselves.
And, many gifted kids – especially those that fall into the highly or profoundly gifted range – just can’t do well within a normal classroom structure. They don’t fit into any molds.
Homeschooling is the perfect option for these kids because they can learn at their own pace, following their passions and interests. In so many cases, homeschooling is the answer for parents of gifted kids, too. They breathe a sigh of relief once their child is home and the stressors of fighting for accommodations are gone. I know I did.
It’s hard, though, to find others walking this path because giftedness is still not talked about as readily as disabilities, athleticism, or other special needs. So, here are some resources for homeschooling gifted kids, along with a few homeschool blogs that talk giftedness:
Resources for Homeschooling Gifted Kids
From nuts and bolts articles to personal stories, the web houses great articles and posts about homeschooling gifted kids. Here are a few of my favorite:
- RLL#62: [Audioblog] Why Should You Homeschool Your Gifted Children?
- Homeschooling Gifted Kids…Really?
- Homeschooling Gifted Kids: What it’s Really Like
- Homeschooling Gifted Kids: A Day in the Life
- Homeschooling Gifted Kids — A Conversation With Moms
- Rethinking Achievement | Helping Gifted Kids Thrive at Home
- Answering the Critics: Homeschooling Gifted Kids
- RLL 16: Homeschooling Gifted Kids on a Budget | A Listener Question
- 101 Reasons Eclectic Homeschooling Works for Gifted Kids
- Hoagie’s Homeschooling Gifted Children Page
- Homeschooling Academically Gifted Kids from the Texas Homeschool Coalition
- The Benefits of Homeschooling your Gifted Child: Freedom and Flexibility by Sallie Borrink
- Homeschooling Highly Gifted Children by Kathi Kearney
Gifted Homeschool Blogs
There are some great bloggers out there homeschooling their gifted children. Each comes at homeschooling from a different perspective, so you may want to hop around and read a few to see which writers you identify with. Let me know if I missed any of your favorites.
- Raising Lifelong Learners
- Different by Design Learning
- Our Journey Westward
- My Little Poppies
- Oaxacaborn: Rhythms of Classical Gifted Homeschooling
- Profoundly Gifted Parenting
- Homeschooling with Dyslexia
- Lemon Lime Adventures
- Blog, She Wrote
- Unschool Rules
- Laughing at Chaos
- Living the Life Fantastic
- Red, White, and Grew
- Great Peace Living
- Bright Kids at Home
How to Homeschool a Gifted Child
There are as many ways to homeschool a gifted child as there are gifted children in this world. Methods abound, and one or more may fit your child’s interests and learning style. The asynchronous nature and incredible intensity of gifted kids, though, make it difficult to find a one-size-fits-all curriculum or method. Here’s an overview of some different methods, along with links to resources specific to each style:
Unschooling
Using an unschooling approach to learning means that activities and lessons are not prescribed and made compulsory. Children learn through their life experiences.
- RLL #66: Strength-Based Learning for Differently-Wired Kids with Shawna Wingert
- RLL #68: Self-Directed Education with Peter Gray, PhD
- RLL #76: Creating the Adventurous Family with Rachel Rainbolt
- The Beginner’s Guide to Unschooling
- The Unschooled Version of a Seventh Grade Curriculum
- The Unschooled Version of an Eighth Grade Curriculum
- From Homeschool Student to Homeschooling Mom
- How Did We Get Here?
- What is Unschooling?
- Homeschooling and Unschooling Resources from the John Holt GWS
- Trusting the Unschooling Process for Gifted Learners: Getting to the Light at the End of the Tunnel
Project-Based Learning
Project-based homeschooling is a method where meaningful projects are chosen and carried out in a self-directed, learner-motivated way. Kids take an active role in focusing the path of their own learning.
- Project-Based Homeschooling
- Project-Based Learning
- What is Project-Based Homeschooling?
- Geography Quest Projects from Blog, She Wrote
Interest-Led {or Delight-Directed} Learning
Piggybacking off of the project-based method, interest-led learning – also called delight-directed – uses a child’s interests to help facilitate his or her learning.
- RLL #66: Strength-Based Learning for Differently-Wired Kids with Shawna Wingert
- RLL #12: What About Relaxed and Interest-Led Homeschooling for Gifted Kids? | A Listener Question
- Interest-Driven Learning
- RLL #53: A Magical Homeschool with Jessica Waldock
- RLL #17: Shawna Wingert: Building on Your Child’s Strengths
- What is Delight-Directed Learning?
- The Gifted Child and Delight-Directed Homeschooling
- Interest-Led Learning: The Beginning
- Delight-Directed Learning and a Super Morning
- Delight-Directed Homeschooling: Questions and Answers
- Delight-Directed Homeschooling from On Faith and Coffee
Unit Studies
The unit study approach can be similar to the above methods, but tends to integrate all subject areas.
- A 10-Day Series describing unit studies
- Unit Study Method from Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers
- Free Unit Studies and Lapbooks from Homeschool Share
Classical Approach
A classical approach to homeschooling is a rigorous academically-focused program based on classical literature, languages, and logic.
- The Classical Approach
- Classical Conversations
- Memoria Press Classical Christian Education
- Veritas Press Classical Education from a Christian Worldview
- The Lost Tools of Learning by Dorothy Sayers
- The Trivium in a Capsule
Charlotte Mason Style
A British educator, Charlotte Mason believed in teaching the whole child, and that education was an atmosphere, a discipline, and a life. Its focus is on short lessons, exposure to great art and music, nature, and real, rich literature.
- What is the Charlotte Mason Method?
- Charlotte Mason How-To
- Charlotte Mason Education
- 7 Characteristics of a Charlotte Mason Education
- Charlotte Mason Homeschooling in 18 Easy Lessons {an awesome eBook}
Other Approaches that May Work for You
The above lists and resources about homeschooling methods are far from exhaustive, and I’ll add to them as I find new resources that I think are valuable. Below is a list of other methods that may work for you. I’ll update this post with additional links and resources to these methods as I find them. If you find methods or resources you think I should add, please let me know.
- What is Montessori Education?
- Waldorf Method
- Thomas Jefferson Education
- 101 Reasons Eclectic Homeschooling Works for Gifted Kids
- Hybrid Homeschooling Offers the Best of Both Worlds
- Online Classes
- Outside Programs
- Mentoring
Support for Parents of Gifted Kids
The hardest thing about finding support as you homeschool your gifted child is that you often have to split your focus. There are loads of great resources for homeschoolers and wonderful places to go for support as a parent of a gifted child, but only a few cater to homeschoolers of gifted children.
Here, I list resources that support both parents of gifted children and those homeschooling gifted kids – I’ll leave my favorite general homeschooling sites for another list.
Organizations
- Center for Talented Youth
- Gifted Development Center
- Mensa
- Mensa for Kids
- National Association for Gifted Children
- National Society for the Gifted and Talented
- Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted
- The College of William and Mary: Gifted Education Center
- The Davidson Institute for Talent Development
- The Gifted Child Society
- The GHF Forum
Publishers
- Shining Dawn Books
- Corwin Press
- Free Spirit Publishing
- Gifted Education Press
- Gifted Homeschoolers Forum Press
- Gifted Unlimited, LLC (formerly Great Potential Press)
- Prufrock Press
- Royal Fireworks Press
- The Critical Thinking Company
- Zephyr Press
Recommended materials
Science
- Groovy Lab in a Box
- No Sweat Nature Study Live
- Streamable Learning (Use code HSLIFELONG20 for 20% off)
- Building Foundations of Scientific Understanding
- Rumble Lab Mission to Mars
- Memorize the Periodic Table
- My Zoo Box website (coupon code RLL30 for 30% off, new subscribers, not valid on mini-subscriptions)
- Paradigm Accelerated Curriculum code: 15ANDFREE to receive 15% off and free shipping
- Think Outside Boxes RLL10 to save $10
- No Sweat Nature Study Live
- NaturExplorers
- MEL Science
- Home Science Tools
Math
- Mr. D Math
- Singapore Math
- Beast Academy Math
- VideoText Interactive
- CTC Math (click on “Homeschoolers” to get HALF off for your whole family!)
Language Arts
- Audible (Get 1 month subscription + 1 EBook for FREE!)
- Handwriting Without Tears
- Read Aloud Revival with Sarah MacKenzie
- All About Reading
- All About Spelling
- Reading Eggs
- Happy Cheetah (Reading)
- Bardsy (free writing template printables in addition to the free Reader level for RLL listeners at bardsy.com/rll)
- Waldock’s Wizards and WandsUse the code RLL10 for 10% off!
- Audible (audio books on Amazon) Get 1 month subscription + 1 EBook for FREE!
- MindPlay Literacy (online reading program)
- Nessy Learning
- Barron’s Painless Series (middle/high school)
- Writeshop
- American Sign Language
- Around the World Stories
Foreign Language
- Rosetta Stone French
- Rosetta Stone Spanish
- Foreign Language Academy
- Little Pim: At Home – Spanish for Kids
History
- Bookshark World History
- Curiosity Stream
- IEW Ancient History
- Around the World Stories
- Galloping the Globe
- The Complete Book of Maps and Geography
- Maps
- Beautiful Feet books (history through literature)
Art
Music
Play
Other Creative Resources
- Different by Design Learning, with special links for RLL listeners, (strength based learning)
- Wonder Crate
- Your Morning Basket with Pam Barnhill
- Creative Charlotte Mason Curriculum
- Homeschool Master Classes
- Sensory Theraplay Box
- Big Life Journal
- Memorize Academy
- Notebooking Pages
Tech / Electronics
- 42 Electronics
- LearnToMod (Coding with Minecraft)
- Coding Foundations LIFELONGLEARNERS 10% off
- Creation Crate
Online courses
- A Crash Course for Homeschooling THAT Kid | Raising Lifelong Learners
- Differently-Wired Kiddos | A Learn-At-Home Workshop
- Living with Intensity | A Learn-At-Home Workshop
- Giftedness 101 | A Learn-At-Home Workshop
- Time 4 Learning
- Bluprint
- Outschool
- Udemy
- Craftsy
- College For All (Use the code CODE250 for RLL listeners, making the cost $250 per month for the life of enrollment!)
- Typesy Homeschool
Moving Forward
Parenting and homeschooling gifted kids can be overwhelming. You may feel alone, and if you’re raising a twice-exceptional child, you may doubt his giftedness and your own parenting ability at times.
I know I do.
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